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Parents using kids as bargaining chips


It’s been said that children are the unwitting victims of a breakdown between partners, but it doesn’t take a separation for kids to be caught up in their parents’ disputes. In particular, kids of all ages can be impacted by games of one-upmanship that can be played out even when parents are together. It happens when one parent criticises the other parent’s child-rearing either verbally or non-verbally: a raised eyebrow can send a strong message. This type of criticism creates doubt and uncertainty in children. It happens when one parent intentionally overindulges children by buying them toys, gadgets and clothes or granting them excessive freedom out of spite.  Competitiveness and disloyalty cause confusion and unhappiness in children. It happens when a parent withholds affection and attention to children to punish their partner for some trans...(sign-up as a member to continue reading this article)


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