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Use I-messages to get around denial


“I didn’t do it. She did!!!”   Ever caught a child or teenager red-handed doing the wrong thing, only to have them deny point blank what they’ve done?   It can be infuriating!    Sometimes kids deny poor behaviour because they don’t want to disappoint you, or simply that they don’t realise what they have done.    When your kids are in denial over what they have done then use language than focuses on you, rather than them.    For instance, if you find your son or daughter to stop annoying a sibling resist using accusatory language such as: “You were annoying your sister?” It will invoke a response such as: “No, I wasn’t!!”    Then you are involved in an argument with your child. Usually one that you’ll lose or be left feeling inadequate. ...(sign-up as a member to continue reading this article)


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