As I wrote extensively in One Step Ahead effective families are generally guided by the value of shared responsibility. While as a mum and dad you job is to be a wise family leader, you are not responsible for everything that goes on in your family. Delegation and discussion should be your best friends.
Here’s how it works. Share some decisions that affect everyone (but not all decisions); share many problems (everyone helps out when someone is struggling); share the wealth (that’s why kids get pocket-money) and share the jobs (that’s why kids should do jobs without being paid).
Most parents like the idea of kids helping without being paid, but have trouble putting the idea into practice. It can be hard work changing entrenched habits. Besides, you can feel like a nag always reminding kids to help out.
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