The proximity principle is a deceptively powerful little concept. I learned about it as I observed good communications and behaviour management practice of children by adults (both teachers and parents) over a period of time. The ‘good operators’ were conscious of the time, place and space they worked in when dealing with children, particularly those kids who were upset or angry.
The proximity principle is about making the best use of time, place and space to maximise our communication with others. Let’s look a little closer.
If you want your children to take notice of you and really hear you then you need to move into their proximal space, which is different to invading their personal space. A child’s proximal space is that space that is about an arm’s length away. Move closer and you are invading their personal space. This is okay with some chil...(sign-up as a member to continue reading this article)